5 Ways to Support Someone Who Is Grieving
Supporting someone through their grief can be challenging. Many people struggle to talk about death because it’s a sensitive topic that tends to be avoided, leading to uncertainty about what to say or how to deal with the intense emotions that come up. The societal taboo around discussing death only makes it more difficult. Here are five meaningful ways to help someone who is grieving:
Be present and listen.
One of the best ways to support someone is simply to be present with them and listen. Show that you care by letting them talk about their feelings, memories, and fears. Be mindful not to rush into offering unsolicited advice or solutions, as this can unintentionally dismiss or invalidate their feelings. Instead, focus on acknowledging their emotions and allowing them to express themselves freely without judgment. Being present, offering a listening ear, and even just sitting in silence together can help someone feel seen, heard, and loved.
Help with everyday tasks.
Grief can be incredibly draining, making even the smallest tasks feel extremely overwhelming. Providing practical help with everyday responsibilities can make a big difference. Whether it’s tidying up their house, picking up groceries, or taking care of their kids for a few hours, these small acts of kindness can help lighten their load.
Remember special dates.
“Grief has no timeline, so support can mean a lot at any stage.”
Grief can make significant days like holidays, anniversaries, and birthdays particularly difficult. Remembering these special dates and reaching out can have a meaningful impact. Perhaps you set a yearly reminder on your phone or send a card or a quick text to let them know you are thinking of them. This simple gesture can show how much you care during those more challenging days.
Check in regularly.
Grief has no timeline, so support can mean a lot at any stage. Checking in on someone not only immediately after their loss but also months and even years later can be a great way to show them that they are not alone in their journey. Regularly asking how they are doing can provide comfort and remind them that you are still there for them.
Respect their way of grieving.
Grief is a very personal journey, and everyone processes it differently. Being there for someone who is grieving is important, and respecting their wishes is a key way to offer support. Some people may appreciate having you around often, while others may need more space to reflect and work through their emotions. Being flexible and understanding their needs helps them heal at their own pace and in their own way, no matter how long that takes.
Supporting someone who is grieving will look different for each person, depending on their needs. You can help by offering a listening ear, assisting in practical ways, acknowledging important dates, intentionally checking in, and respecting how they grieve. Often, simply being there for them and showing that you genuinely care can provide significant comfort and reassurance during one of the most difficult times in their life.
If you or someone you know would like to support in your grief and processing your experiences, Julie and our team at The Growth & Wellness Therapy Centre can help. Please contact our intake and administration team to set up a free consultation with Julie, or book yourself through her online booking link.
About the Author
Julie Klassen, BSW MSW RSW, is an individual and child therapist at The Growth & Wellness Therapy Centre specializing in grief and loss. She can support you or your children through that journey no matter what your grief looks like or how overwhelmed you may feel.